Put Yourself in Someone Else's Shoes (Question of the Week)

Dear Chuck,
I write this e-mail with a heavy heart, its hard for me to admit as a woman, but I am willing to change and do the right thing. I have been dating my boyfriend for over six years and for the first five everything was going great. We both had a lot in common, enjoyed each other's company, understood each other needs or wants and it seem like we were soul-mates with a bright future ahead of us. But now on our sixth year, the romance and the passion seem to have left our relationship. I have tried everything I could to make the relationship work or turn it around for the better, but nothing I do or have tried turns out right. Over time I have become frustrated, yes I admit a little hot or horny then started dating and sleeping with someone else on the side. I know if you are reading this, you may say what I am doing is wrong or that I shouldn't be doing this and I agree. But the man that I am seeing is fun, he excites me, turns me on and I sometime feel as if I can't help myself. He gives me  love,we have lots of fun, the sex is very good, we communicate well and the attention that my man hasn't been giving me, my new boo does it without hesitation! Chuck, what is a girl  too do? I love my boyfriend and besides that I have six years invested in this relationship. I really don't want to hurt him, but a girl has to get hers and when I am with him I feel so alone! But I am scared that if I give up my relationship of six years and if this other relationship doesn't work, then I'll be all by myself. Please don't be so hard on me and tell me what I should do. Question; Is it really wrong to love one man for his heart and like another man because of his attention or his good loving? Give me your honest opinion, please help and tell me what's a girl to do?

Your friend and loyal reader,

Kim

Hello Kim,

How have you been doing? Its been a while since I have heard from you and it seems that you are doing well. But the question you asked me seem to be already answered by you. You already admitted what you were doing is wrong and you want to do the right thing. My only advice to you is to put yourself in your mans shoes and ask yourself these questions. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and he was cheating on you? Would you like it or would you think it was fair? Would you like him to continue seeing someone else, while he was continuing a relationship with you? You would think that he was trying to have his cake and eat it too right?

 Take some advice from someone who has cheated and who have been cheated on. Its not fun to cheat and it doesn't feel good to be cheated on. Why you may ask? When you cheat, you have to lie and then you will have to deceive. It takes a lot of hard work to carry on with two relationships. Even though it can be fun at times, but at other times it can be very stressful. Because while you are cheating you are always afraid that your spouse or mate may find out about your affair and you may be caught. You know what comes with that, once they find out then they are hurt or heart broken. Then you will have a life that's full of drama, stress and pain. Now you have hurt the one you cheated on and they are now heartbroken. They feel used, abused, lied too and betrayed. What a awful feeling, I know because I have experienced it and it doesn't feel good. Take my advice and Put Yourself Into Someone Else's Shoes, before you make a big mistake, that you may regret for the rest of your life.

May God bless you always,

Chuck