Lets face it when any us get into a relationship or marriage, we all have certain expectations. The obvious is , (at least I am speaking for myself) for the person I am with has to be faithful, respectful and honest. These days none of those things seem to matter. Why? Because these days some people seem to only be concerned for their own feelings or needs and it doesn't matter if they are a man or a woman, most enjoy playing games. Some men or women never grow up and then there are those who refuse to believe that time has really passed them by. That is why, some still act like, dress like, childish little boys or girls. Because they haven't woke up yet and realized that they are no longer that young man or woman they used to be. Its makes one want to say, just once Lord I wish I would meet me someone that doesn't come pre-packaged with drama, lies or games! Lets face it we all come pre-packaged with something and there is no one you will meet that doesn't have a past or some type of skeleton in their closet. But if you are like myself , then I know you could live without other peoples drama or insecurity's.
My message is simple to the single people, newly divorced or separated, if you haven't gotten over your past, then its real obvious that you aren't ready to move on yet! Please for your sake take sometime to get to know yourself again before you move on. No one new should have to deal with your past problems or personnel issues. If you happen to have a lot of emotional baggage, trust issues, don't trust men or women and haven't gotten over your ex, then stay single until you are ready. The question, I have and millions of single good people have that only want to be loved. Is it too much to ask? Write in , then express your thoughts or opinions on the subject.
Until then have a great weekend,
Chuck
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Anonymous said…
SOUL TIES!!! People have created so many soul ties with more than one person. They can have a soul tie for sex with one and love with another. It's a revolving door of continuous drama and the "good person" always get dealt the bad card. People's expectations are so high that they can't find "all" in one person, so they "dibble and dabble" with more than one person to get that satisfaction then the bond is formed and so hard to break. People may see some thing in you they like and want to hold on to you while seeing something in another they want too. Until you free yourself from a relationshipor soul tie you'll never give your all to someone else. It was a long process for me to get over the break up between me and my ex husband, had to get rid of all that emotional baggage and learn some lessons through that process. A faithful, respectful and honest person is a unique jewel in these days and time. Lynette
Hello Lynette, Love the note and I am very glad that you brought up emotional baggage. A lot of people carry this around with them without realizing it for themselves. What I have noticed is that some men or women have a hard time dealing with the fact that there is a big difference between sex and love. Sex is only for lust or pleasure, where is love or love making is an expression between two people expressing ones love for the other. When people confuse the two is when the problem begins. That is why both men or women in these times has to be careful before they engage in these practices. Not only because its not safe, but also to protect ones heart. My advice to anyone who may read this note, if there is a man or woman that you are interested in and you feel that its time to take it to the next level. Before this begins express to your willing partner what you expect from this action. Believe this or not, there are a lot of men or women in the world that only want sex and have no real intentions on starting a relationship. That is why one must ask, is this a relationship or is this a friends with benefits situation? Express yourself and tell the person what you want or expect. Is it too much to ask? Be safe, Chuck
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Love the note and I am very glad that you brought up emotional baggage. A lot of people carry this around with them without realizing it for themselves. What I have noticed is that some men or women have a hard time dealing with the fact that there is a big difference between sex and love. Sex is only for lust or pleasure, where is love or love making is an expression between two people expressing ones love for the other. When people confuse the two is when the problem begins. That is why both men or women in these times has to be careful before they engage in these practices. Not only because its not safe, but also to protect ones heart. My advice to anyone who may read this note, if there is a man or woman that you are interested in and you feel that its time to take it to the next level. Before this begins express to your willing partner what you expect from this action. Believe this or not, there are a lot of men or women in the world that only want sex and have no real intentions on starting a relationship. That is why one must ask, is this a relationship or is this a friends with benefits situation? Express yourself and tell the person what you want or expect. Is it too much to ask?
Be safe,
Chuck