Its Not My Fault

One of the things I have found out when it comes to dating, that the world has changed. It used to be that men and women respected each other, but now in today's world its all about how much money a man makes or how good he can make her feel in bed. Today's focus seems to be on the wallet or the bedroom. What most don't realize is that none of these things matter if you don't like or can't get alone with the person you are interested in. To me its really sad that a man has to validate himself, by buying or providing money in order to prove himself worthy as a man. A man shouldn't have to buy a woman things, wine or dine her in order to get to know her. At the same time a woman shouldn't have to sleep with a man or do anything in that nature to prove herself worthy as a woman. My late grandmother had a very famous saying that I'll never for get, "Its not what's between the legs or what's in a persons wallet that counts, its what's between the ears,  that a person should be concern with". She would say, Baby so what if they are good in bed or if someone happens to make good money. If they can't think for themselves or if they are not right mentally, who cares if they are doing well financially?

 What I was taught by both of my parents , that a man or a woman has to learn how to be a one, before they can be somebody else's man or woman. What did my parents mean by this statement? What they meant by this statement, is that a man or woman have to have the ability to take care of themselves and also have the mental capabilities to leave the past behind. My mom would make me laugh when she would say, Baby if you happen to meet a woman, who is still holding on to past hurts or pains, please tell her this for me, "Its not my fault that he hurt you". Which brings me to the topic of today, Its not my fault. Men, women, I have a question, that I am hoping each of you have an answer for. Aren't you tired of meeting someone for the very first time, but all they can do is complain or talk about what their ex spouses used to do them in their past? Aren't you tired of hearing that all men or women are the same or a like? My question to those or to you is you happen to feel that way, "Why are you trying to date or looking for love, in the first place? If all men or women happen to be bad in your eyes, then do what the people who have left their past where it belongs a favor ,stop dating! Why? Because you are not ready, you are not over your ex and its not their fault that someone cheated, hurt you, lied or treated you bad. Besides that its never wise to keep bringing up your past, while you are currently living in the present. So get over it and move on! Its Not My Fault! Write in, then express your thoughts or opinions on the subject.

Chuck