Just A Friend?
Over the fifty-one years of my life, I always wondered why men and women had problems as a couple or in a relationship. From my research and personnel experience I have determine the reasons for this is because men and women play, childish or silly games. I know there may be some women who read this and may say that men are the ones that play games or that most men are dogs or whores. But I have something to say about that, news flash to the women who feel this way, its not true and don't believe the hype! When it comes to playing games I happen to know more than a few women who are pros at it and will put the best player or whore to shame. I was always told by my mother, that when it comes to playing the field, women are pros's at it and men were amateurs. I remember one conversation that I had with my mother, when she would say, Chuck do you really think you are playing those women? And if so ask yourself this question," Who is playing who and don't you know those women knew that they wanted you before you got involved with them?" I know some women might say, Chuck you are wrong for saying that and if you feel that way then why? Or like one of my aunts might say explain yourself young man. (smile)
Just the other day I was on my way to work and I noticed that a neighbor of mine car happen to be broken down. When I looked down, I saw her sitting down looking at her car. I said hello how are you doing and then asked her what was wrong with her car. Before she could answer me a man answered me from under her car, then told me that her brakes locked up. I walked over to the side he was on then said, what's up man how are you doing? He said fine, but as you can see and he said this sarcastic that I am working on my friends car. Then I looked at her, then said, you are not putting your man in the friend zone are you? Then he said before she could answer, Yes man she is, but ask yourself this question, What man would come from one end of the town, take a woman out to eat, wine and dine her, spend nights and when a crisis arrives comes, then fixes a beautiful woman's car? She might say that I am just a friend, but you know and she knows I am not.
So ladies, I have a question for you why do you do this? Why is it when you are in the company of a man and when someone ask you who is this person, then you say he is just a friend? Is it because you are afraid of commitment or you have something to hide? Don't you know that most men don't like this practice and it makes them look bad? Most of you know that if a man tried this, you would be all over him and you might ask him these questions. So I am just a friend am I? Then you would say, well you didn't say that last night or you may say well if I am a friend I guess I might as well treat you like one. Most of you would be mad as hell and you would be complaining to your girlfriends, then fussing at your so called friend all night! Why is it that when you are horny or hot he is your lover, but when you want something done for you or when you are seen in public then he is your friend? This is something that I have found that only women can get away with saying this statement. Why? Well I know from my past experience, if I had said this while I was with someone I was involved with, it would be on! Write in ladies and explain why do you use this statement," Oh he's just a friend". Really Just A Friend?
Chuck
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This is all i have to say: If the man is mines, he's mines...If only he is just a friend,then he is just a friend.I would be very proud to tell someone"THIS IS MY MAN"
I am glad that you wrote this topic, women are so much actors. They act like we men play games when in fact they are the ones that play them, invent them and without them we men couldn't cheat. To give you an example of this , is when one day I was involved with this lady right and then later I found out she had a boyfriend. Man she was so scandalous, because one day I went to her apartment, her man wasn't home. But he called when I was there, then she acted like she missed him, when in fact she was loving me. Then to make it stranger than that, I bumped into the both of them in the mall and she hugged me then introduced me as her friend. Now that's a trip, just a friend!
I love the topic man and the other guy is right, women are the ones that play games. Yes, we have been known to be dogs, but without them we couldn't cheat. One day I met this lady in a bar and later I took her home. I asked her was she married , then she that she was married and filling for a divorce. I found out after two months that she wasn't planning on getting a divorce, she was just getting back at her husband for having an affair. But the trip about it, check this out..... I saw her and her husband in the store together , she later introduced me as her child hood friend from high school. Man, this woman was a good liar, a pro.....
What is it with these women always blaming us for cheating? Don't they know that game recognizes game? They talk so much junk especially that Deedy lady. She knows , even if she won't admit it that women are good liars. An example of this is my boy and man I feel for him. Because he is a good dude that works hard, six days a week and puts it down for his family. But his lady man is so scandalous, as soon as the brother leaves for work , there is another man in his house. I wanted to tell him about it, but I didn't want to break the brothers heart. To make a long story short he caught her cheating one day, because he got off early from work. He almost killed dude and I stopped him because I didn't want my hommie in jail. To make matters worse he is back with her and she is still doing the same thing. Why you say? Well now she blames him, because in her words he can't get it up. Now what's up?
Even on here it seems women really stick up for each other. In the real world Ms. Deedy there are a lot of women claiming to be good women and blaming their faults on men. I have heard many women say, they reason they don't trust a man or want to start a new relationship with one is because all men are dogs. News Flash, Ms. Deedy or any other woman that reads my comments, you guys are better at it when it comes to cheating than men. Now I agree with Ms. Deedy to a point, I hate cheaters, liars or anyone who uses a person for what they have or what they want. Also women should realize that men have feelings to and as much as we would like to blame you guys for our down fall most of us don't. We don't cry when a woman breaks our hearts, instead we go on with our lives searching for a woman that will complete us. Chuck I have been divorced now for over 8 years, my ex-wife took everything. But I wouldn't change a thing because nothing beats a peace of mind.
Marvin
Lynette
Be real! You know why they cheat! Its because they are nasty, can't keep their skirts up or their things in their pants. Then look at the music they listen too demeaning us women and the reality shows that glorify both unfaithful men or women. Face it girl, sex sells men and women just love to have sex. A girlfriend of mine is so hot, that she has slept with her mans, brother, friend and his father. She makes Jill on the Young and Restless look like a saint. That's my girl, but I am keeping it real and she isn't about to change. Her momma is nasty and so is her sister, they just keep having unprotected sex with men. That is why I keep my man for away from her hot self, because she has no cut in her. Anyway, I am just keeping it 100.....
Kim
I have an uncle that is 55 and is still nasty with his old self. Girl he takes viagra like they are tic tacks and he is always chasing those young girls. Girl ,I keep telling him to leave those young girls alone, because I don't won't them girls to get worms. But he is just an old fool still chasing a dream, but if you look at him its like a nightmare. Then I have an aunt who calls herself a cougar, telling me that 60 is the new 40 #$#*# please! 60 is old and she needs to sit her old self down before she catches a heart attack.
Paula
James
I have been dating my lady for 4 years, but guess what she is never happy. She always complains that I don't take her anywhere or she might say, that I manly or hard enough for her. But she sure doesn't complain when I put that money in her hands every month! I work 6 days a week, cook, clean , help her raise her children that are not mine, then buy her nice expensive things and I even help pay her bills. I have to put up with her girlfriends or family members that are always in our business. Why are they in our business you may ask? Well its because known of them have men or their own! I am sick of it and ready to leave! Because the real icing on the cake is when we are in public and she sees a old boyfriend or someone she may be interested in she always introduces me as a friend. What a @##@*$ trip! A friend!!
Derek
I love the responses that I am getting from both the men and the women. This happens to be a very touchy subject , that happens to be very close to my heart. I understand how some men here feel about the subject. Why? Well because I have been on that side of the fence and I have been treated the same way as most of the guys here. There is noting that I hate worse than a woman, who I happen to be involved with, giving my money to and spending all my time with, telling someone that we may meet in public, that I am her friend. Women sometimes use the term, my friend, my guy friend, my boo tang and other sayings. When I am in public with the woman whom I am suppose to be involved with or in love , I just want to simply be your man and not your friend.
Thank you guys for all of your responses and have a wonderful week,
Chuck